Monday 5 December 2011

Voices in my head


Today I want to talk about the voices in my head. 

Some of you probably already think I am mad ... those of you who know me. Others may just look at my ravings and wonder. But I know that if I have voices in my head, so do you! I am not alone in this.
And these voices – well sometimes they’re fun companions urging me on to jump in puddles, kick autumn leaves, have another drink, talk to a stranger. But other times they speak in malevolent whispers. Who do you think you are? What made you think you could do that? You’ve got to be kidding, you’re not good enough ... 

Do these sound familiar?

I read a book some time back where the principal character was followed around by an imaginary dog that represented her self-pity. Whenever she was feeling low, or something didn’t go right, she could hear him whining and whimpering. 

Well, I’m putting my dog on notice. No whining and whimpering allowed. There is no place for negative voices in my head. From now on I can do it, I am good enough, and what makes you think you should question me? Haven’t you seen what I’ve achieved?

It’s time for me to focus on why I should, not why I shouldn’t.

Sorry about the dog, but he’s got to change his behaviour, or he’s got to go (I’m hoping he will change because I am rather fond of him).

Friday 2 December 2011

Globalisation - Love it or hate it ...?

Sometimes I rail against the ‘global society’. When I travel and find myself seeing the same stores everywhere I wonder why the British High Street is replicated in so many places. What’s happened to local flavour, individuality ...?

Of course, when we scratch the surfaces of these places we find that the local flavour is there – it just may take a bit more than the cursory glance we so often give things to find it. Stephen Fry on QI mentioned that most visitors to the Louvre go directly to the Mona Lisa, spend less than three minutes looking at it, then leave the Louvre. The cursory glance – maybe this is all that most modern tourists have time for?

When I travel I like to stay in one spot and take it in, to absorb the flavours and smells. I like to base myself in one small town and sit in cafes, watching the people go about their days, trying to understand what is making the particular place ‘tick’ – I like to scratch beneath the surface.

But I have a confession to make. There are other times when I really welcome the surfaces, the visible global brands.

On moving to Prague, I needed some furniture. I don’t want to spend a fortune on furniture. Money spent on a sofa can be better spent on so many other things in my book. So I turned to Ikea. They make it easy. They are everywhere. We’re all familiar with how the Ikea store works. In Prague there is a regular bus from the nearest metro station that takes you directly to Ikea. Of course the store is so popular it’s always crowded – in fact as I left at lunchtime, there were so many people coming there that they had to control entry at the front door. But at Ikea you know what you’re going to get and that can make it worth dealing with the crowds.

Then there’s coffee. When you’re in a new place and don’t know where the best coffee is, sometimes you’re happy to experiment and get rubbish. But when you’re feet are sore, it’s cold, you’re tired – well then, I have to say it, the pleasure I get from a double espresso in Starbucks really lifts my spirits. It’s the consistency that attracts – knowing that when I order my coffee it will be the same, good coffee I can buy in Dubai, Sydney, London or just about anywhere else in the world.

When I rant and rave about globalisation, when I complain that the main street in each major city replicates every other main street in every other major city, take it with a grain of salt. Like everyone else I like to grab a dose of the familiar to help me through the challenges of a new city, a new country, new people, new work, new language ... I admit it. I like to be able to get a Starbucks espresso. Yet I need to remember I didn’t make these changes to my life for familiarity. I made them so I could experience different things ... so from now on, only one Starbucks a week.

It’s time to find those great, local coffee places ...

Thursday 1 December 2011

More on my move ...

Arrival!
My flight landed early. The way through passport control was fast and efficient. My luggage was amongst some of the first to be unloaded. I breezed through customs.

A wonderful beginning.

I phoned Martin, my real estate agent, who had offered to come and pick me up and drive me to the apartment. He arrived promptly, helped with my luggage and was, as ever, charming and full of useful information about my new home.

After signing everything that needed to be signed and learning how to use the multiple locks, I was alone in my new, very empty home. My top priority was something to sleep on, and something to sleep under. So I harnessed all my courage and found my way to the Metro station, and on to a train with a 24 hour ticket (for some reason I always find train systems a little scary and am amazed each time I try a new one at how easily they can be navigated).

So to Pankrรกc station – just one stop further out of town. A yoga mat, a duvet, and I was set for the night. I have to say, that after two nights of this uncomfortable arrangement, my white cloud of an IKEA mattress is beckoning.

Of course, I’m still trying to get the hang of the heating controls – but I haven’t really needed the heating. My kitchen cupboards are bare. But I have found the Tesco Express just down the road. My biggest challenge now is finding my way to and from the station. First time was in daylight. No problem. But in the dark (just after 5 pm – short days here now!) everything looked different and I walked and retraced my steps twice before finding my way. I am optimistic that from now on I shouldn’t have any problems.

An update - I've moved to Prague!

Well, after a long absence I have returned to the screen of my blog. A word of explanation for my silence. I've been busy moving. The dream of a 'real' life in Europe is, I trust, going to become my reality. I have moved to Prague, got myself connected, and am embarking on new adventures.

But first, some musings on my final hours in Dubai ...

Last Day in Dubai

As ever, Dubai gave me memorable experiences right until the last moment.

I was reminded of Dubai-Sharjah traffic. I hadn’t been on this road for many years because of the traffic. I had completely forgotten how ghastly it can be. And on my last day I battled with it twice.

Rude taxi drivers – I know most of the taxi drivers are fantastic. But there are the bad ones, and two of my last three taxi rides involved these. First a taxi driver who gets a flat tire, on a road with no other taxis, and who refuses to contact his company and get them to send someone. A second taxi arrives and stops. I ask, hopefully, can you take me? No, of course not. He’s helping the one with the flat tyre. Have these people never heard of customers? Are we not how they make their money? A bit of help would have gone a long way. But none was forthcoming, so my wallet remained firmly shut.

Then there was the ‘moaning’ taxi driver on the way to the airport. The traffic is so bad. These signals cause the bad traffic. A woman who lives over there didn’t pay the fare yesterday. I have visited twice asking for the money but she just tells me to come back. Last time I went she didn’t open the door. (It’s not that these aren’t legitimate moans. The traffic was bad, the woman who didn’t pay her fare unspeakable – but I just want to relax and get to the airport.)

Of course, it’s my last time leaving Dubai and I have excess luggage. 20 kilos of the stuff. Here was a bright point in my leaving. I still had to pay it all but a lovely man took pity on me and I only paid for 14 kilos. Of course, being Emirates, this is still an extortionate amount, but it was all stuff I need.

I look out of my window now and see green, I see uncongested roads. And what’s that I hear? A car horn? No, not a car horn to be heard. I’ve got a lot to do before I truly feel I belong here, and I probably won’t end my days here. But it’s nice to call Prague home.

Tuesday 25 October 2011

Do it now ...

After years of corporate life, in both the public and private sectors, I am moving on to the wonderful land of ‘making it on my own’. Well, I hope it will be ‘making it on my own’ and not ‘unemployed and homeless’.

Four more working days at the office and then a couple of weeks of getting things sorted and I will be changing countries. No doing things by halves for me this time. This time I’m going to give my own business a shot. I’ve decided life is just too short not to spend it doing things that you love. The big question now, of course, is will anyone pay me to do the things I love?

At the moment though I’m not loving it so much, but I know that there is a reward ahead that makes all the sorting, packing, unpacking, repacking, disposing of, deciding to dispose of, reclaiming, etc. worthwhile. I hope so anyway. Because this process is draining. The ridiculous levels of attachment I have to things that are completely replaceable are really making me wonder. I’ve completely failed with reducing the amount of music I will carry to my next abode. I tried. I really tried. All that happened as I sorted through the hundreds of CDs was I remembered how wonderful they all are, and started listening to things I hadn’t listened to for years. And don’t get me started on the books.

Yet time is running out. The removal company is coming tomorrow to start the assessment process ... so, being an absolute master of procrastination, I chose this moment to update my blog ...

Do it now. Okay, I’m going. Now. Okay, okay ...

Monday 19 September 2011

Desperate for news of Kinder Eggs

Dear all,

I am shattered. Nowhere can I find a Kinder Egg in Dubai. I can only find the feeble, unsatisfactory, unfulfilling Kinder Joy. Has anyone seen a Kinder Egg? Can anyone help me find these? If we don't find them soon, I am concerned that my esteemed colleague Lou-Bear may just do something desperate.

Please help.
A splendid woman and her mates

Tuesday 13 September 2011

Still wondering ...

This one's for Lou-Bear:

wondering what's happened to all the Kinder Surprise Eggs in the UAE? Know they're banned in the USA. Has the UAE followed suit, or is it just a temporary blip in the supply chain?

Does anyone know where to find a Kinder Egg? Please ...

Just curious ...

I've been wondering ...

Why is it that the more expensive the hotel room, the less likely you are to have free wifi?

Do border guards regularly ask random strangers for lifts home in Serbia?

Do all waiters think that a single woman of a certain age is fair game?

Why do taxis in Dubai fail to understand that if you wanted a taxi you would signal them to pick you up - they don't have to add to the noise pollution with their incessant 'tooting'?

Why is it more fun to get lost in a strange city than to get lost in the city where you live?

Why the more television channels you have available, the less there is that's worth watching?

Monday 5 September 2011

Short Break in Belgrade


A friend suggested that we visit Belgrade for a couple of days. I admit it, I was wary. After all, Serbia is a country that I have only heard of in the context of conflict. I allowed the spirit of adventure to guide me though and agreed. We would go to Belgrade.

The two night stop in Belgrade was a business trip for my travelling companion who had decided that, as we needed to go to a few different places, it would be easiest to hire a car.

Our journey started in Skopje, Macedonia, which is where he lives. The road to Belgrade was fairly uneventful. Peaceful rural scenery. Border crossing was fine - papers all in order. We sailed through the Macedonian side of the border. On the Serbian side my travelling companion had a conversation with the police officer. I thought something might be wrong. But he was smiling - surely everything was okay. He turned to me. “There's a police officer here who'll be coming in the car with us. He needs a lift home.”

Surely he was joking. But no, when we pulled over at the border post money exchange bureau, a police officer climbed into the back seat and we drove him about 40 km down the highway and dropped him off in a small village. So, surprisingly I entered Serbia with a police escort and an amusing travel tale to tell.

I hadn't ever thought about visiting Belgrade and the decision to go there was made in haste so I didn't have much time to do any research. I had no idea what to expect. Not to mention that we were booked into the rather absurdly named Design Hotel Mr President for our two night stay. My first look at Belgrade came as we crested a hill on the outskirts and my enduring memory is seeing a couple of massive, concrete, socialist era tower blocks rising above the city. We drove to the hotel which is in a great location - near the railway station and across the road from the bus station. An easy 10 – 15 minute walk to the centre. If you drive, it also has free parking.

Belgrade is a modern city with a range of shops, and fascinating architecture, ranging from the 60s socialist to the beautiful art nouveau Hotel Moscow, from the mix of styles cobbled together over centuries at the Kalemegdan Citadel to the orthodox churches.

Each room of the Design Hotel Mr President pays tribute to a current or former world leader with a portrait over the bed. A little strange. The very reasonable hotel room rate includes both breakfast and dinner. Breakfast was fine, but we ate out each night and didn't get to try the dinners. It is definitely worth visiting the restaurant where breakfast and dinner are served to see the two replicas of Mt Rushmore – one with the original faces, and one with the heads of various local figures. Service in the hotel cafe was friendly and sitting outside on the pavement was pleasant, even though it was next to a road. The hotel is also next to a a small park which is great for people watching, or just sitting to rest your feet after walking around the city.

In the city centre we stopped for coffee. There were heatwave conditions in parts of Europe at the time. This cafe's response to the heat was to spray a light fog over the guests too cool us down. If you've ever been lucky enough to visit the Fog Sculpture at the National Gallery of Australia in Canberra, you will understand the concept.

The pedestrianised main street hosts a string of familiar and unfamiliar shops, including one shop that seemed to be made up of artisans' stalls. Along this street you will also find people selling souvenirs and art. At one end of this street, cross the road and you will find yourself in a lovely park and near the city's fortress, Kelamegdan Citadel. During the day the park is cluttered with small stalls selling mainly tourist tat, but get there early in the morning and it's a different place. Quiet, peaceful. A few joggers and dog walkers populate the park, but it's so large you barely notice them. There are panoramic views to Belgrade's two rivers, the Sava and the Danube, and to the point where the two rivers meet. At the other end of the pedestrian zone, walk on for a hundred metres or so and you will find the green and white facade of the Hotel Moscow.

If you only eat one meal in Belgrade, I suggest you have it at the fortress terrace restaurant, Kalemegdanska Terasa. The interior is decorated with fake frescos, but don't hold this against the place. The food is some of the best I've eaten. The highlight of my meal was the homemade pasta with brie, porcini, and truffles. My travelling companion laughed at the look on my face when I took my first mouthful, perhaps reminded of a certain scene in the film When Harry Met Sally. I savoured the creamy flavours, and the gentle al dente texture of the pasta. It wasn't until he tried some that he really understood. Next time I come here, I'm ordering this ... When you visit, make sure you sit outside on the terrace. It overlooks the river and is a lovely place to enjoy the balmy Serbian summer evening and it was a welcome respite from the heat of the day. Rows of pink and red geraniums in pots. A majestic stone tower of the fortress in view. Pure magic.



Belgrade is not the easiest city to find your way around. It doesn't conform to a neat grid pattern. But it is one of the most inviting cities to get lost in. I ventured out early one morning on foot. The city was wakening - except for a few sleeping travellers in a small green park near the bus station. I wandered through the quiet streets, able to stop at leisure to look at the buildings without interrupting the flow of busy people which takes over the pavements later in the day. The park around the fortress was practically deserted. a few early morning exercisers and dog walkers. A couple of other camera-toting tourists. and beautiful views of the river and the fortress structures as the sun climbed higher in the sky. I then managed to get completely lost getting back to the hotel, but found the city market where I picked up a couple of Serbian silk and cotton tops very cheaply.

For our second evening we went to the Supermarket. Now this isn't a place to buy your groceries. It's a hip and happening concept store, packed with the city's young urban professionals. Stop here for a drink. It's not somewhere I would come back to for a meal, but it's a fascinating store with an eclectic mix of things from high fashion shoes, to dog accessories, from coffee table books to knick-knacks and clothes. And the drinks were good.

Belgrade is a bustling city full of life and energy. There is entertainment available everywhere - perhaps not the array of big names that go to Croatia, but interesting entertainment nonetheless. When you think of Belgrade and Serbia, put thoughts of the conflicts behind you. The people here are getting on with their lives, and enjoying them.

Thursday 18 August 2011

It's time

Is there anything as wonderful as the feeling of anticipation that comes when you have an exciting holiday coming up, with plans to visit places you've never been before, a visit to one city you have visited before and loved, and time with a good friend to look forward to?

Wednesday 17 August 2011

What to do now?


What to do now? A question I ask myself a thousand times a day. With 'now' meaning a load of different things from 'right this minute' to 'for the rest of my life'!

Every now and then the possibilities overwhelm me. There are so many options. Just think about it ...

Thinking about setting up a business? The internet has opened up opportunities that didn’t exist 10, or even 5 years, ago. What talents can I use? I start a list and soon find myself with so many options I can’t make a choice. Write some ebooks, teach English, freelance writing, editing – writing seems to be a theme but now I need a niche. Silent scream.

I decide to stick to the day job a little longer and think about what to read in my spare time. I’ve decided that six bookcases full of books – well, it’s somewhat excessive for one person and I need to cull the collection. But where to start? Of course, I can’t remove anything without re-reading it. So, fiction or non-fiction, light or literary, European, Asian or Antipodean ...? Too many choices. Maybe I’ll work on the holiday planning.

The countries are decided. I had help with that ... So we have a list. Macedonia, Serbia, Croatia and the Czech Republic. But only two weeks. And in each of those countries there’s so much to see, so much to do. Then there's the question of which websites to trust for travel information.

Maybe it’s time I cooked dinner – but of course, a rummage in the kitchen means more choices, more decisions.

I am now completely overwhelmed. Maybe I’ll just distract myself by writing a blog entry – and asking for advise. What do you do when you’re confronted by so many choices that you can’t make a choice?

I have ground to a halt. I am wasting time doing trivial things to avoid making decisions about the things that will make a difference.

Perhaps I should read some self-help books ... that might be a place to start.

Saturday 13 August 2011

I've been cooking again ...


Paprika spiced cannellini beans

Dice two onions and finely chop a couple of cloves of garlic. Cook slowly in olive oil to soften, not brown – no caramelising here, okay – soft and pale is how you want it to be. Add about three tablespoons of Paprika and the same of ground cumin. Stir and cook for a few minutes. Then add about three tablespoons of cider vinegar and a couple of tablespoons of brown sugar. Also add a stack of chopped tomatoes (I used some preserved organic cherry tomatoes from Organic Foods and Cafe) and squashed them up as they cooked. Season with salt and pepper. Cook for about 10 minutes. Then add a couple of cans of Cannellini beans.

Play around with the ratios – look at how much tomato you like with your beans or how many beans you like with your tomato – I went for two lots of tomatoes and two cans of beans ... Cook some more – maybe about ten to twenty minutes.

You can serve this with all kinds of things. Crumble over some feta cheese, add some chunks of avocado, serve with rice, or mop it up with bread. Pile on toast (bruschetta style) or serve with salad. For extra richness top with some sour cream. Use your imagination and have fun. The recipe is just the starting point.

Thursday 7 July 2011

Friends

What is a friend? Are our true friends more important to us than even members of our family? A popular, and oft-repeated Facebook post claims: “Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything for you, and love you no matter what.”

In the words of Alain de Botton, a friend is someone “kind enough to consider more of us normal than most people do.” And when we think about the importance of friends, one can’t help but think Nietzsche was right to find Epicurus’s ideas on friendship appealing: “Of all the things that wisdom provides to help one live one’s entire life in happiness, the greatest by far is the possession of friendship.”

This past week I have managed to catch up with two wonderful friends. The next week will, I hope, see me have the opportunity to spend time with others. I am blessed with a collection of special people – not a large collection to be sure, but a collection nonetheless – of people who I consider to be true friends.

Then there are the new friends. The people we meet by chance who touch our lives and who, for whatever reason, reach us in a way that makes us want to open ourselves to them and to meet up with them again and again. The people we want to build a friendship with because of that spark they have that lights our hearts and our minds (and if we’re very lucky, our bodiesJ).

They may, over time, become family. Or we may realise that we were mistaken. Or they may not like us quite the same way we like them.

I guess what counts for me is that amongst all the people that I have met, there are a few people I find it easy to support and love who support and love me back.

Tuesday 5 July 2011

More things that delight me (Part 2)

  • The smell of eucalypts after rain
  • The Fog Sculpture at the NGA in Canberra


  • A good strong blue cheese
  • Staying at home with a good book
  • Ripe tomato with fresh basil and some good Murray River pink sea salt
  • Waking up in the morning and knowing there’s no one I have to see, no where I have to be
  • Making the decision about where to spend my next holiday

  •  The look on visitors’ faces when they see Dubai’s faux Egyptian shopping centre Wafi in all its glory for the first time – think sun streaming through glass pyramids, concrete statues of Ramses II and general typical, over-the-top, Dubai style excess
  • Stormy seas – waves pounding against rocks under dark clouds, with or without rain
  • Swimming in a thermal spa in Italy in the rain in autumn

  •  The faded splendour of Venice – the boats collecting the city’s garbage in the mornings, the subtle Christmas lights in December, getting lost walking and discovering glimpses of gardens, eating a crepe with melted cheese near the Rialto Bridge
  • Dipping my feet into an icy cold river on a hot summer day
  • Bach’s Cello Suites – Pablo Casal’s recording is my top preference but there are many other good ones
  • Mario's gorgeous tower in Montemarcello 
  • The sound of a lover's voice on the phone when you haven't seen them for a while ...

Monday 4 July 2011

I want to break free

I know some of my older readers will remember Freddie Mercury and this wonderful Queen song. I've been reflecting recently about how many barriers we create for ourselves to prevent ourselves breaking free. Why is it that people need to feel safe and secure, even when it's clearly not making them happy and is, on occasion, even damaging them?

How can we remove the bars that cage us and take action to go to another place in life? What is the worst that can happen?

Any thoughts, encouragement, random hints, etc. welcome.

I know it will be worth it in the end.

Thursday 30 June 2011

Back to the kitchen

Today I ventured back into the kitchen. I long for a larger kitchen, an easier-to-work-in kitchen. But my kitchen is not enough to make me stop. So today I ventured back to make some Caponata.

Chop aubergine - a couple of them - organic ones are great because they are less spongy and water-filled than the others. Fry pieces in oil until golden - I do this in small batches so that the oil remains hot.

Finely chop onion and celery. Cook briefly in boiling salted water. Add to fried aubergines with the following:
tomato paste
salt and pepper
capers (I buy the salted ones, and then soak them for 30 minutes to get rid of the salt)
chopped green olives
white wine vinegar
sugar

For about 2 aubergines, I use 4 sticks of celery, a large onion, about 20 olives, 1 tablespoon each of tomato paste, sugar, vinegar and capers.

Cook this wonderful mixture for about 15 minutes and get ready to eat it. But don't eat it all now. It tastes even better over the next few days as it ages, and the vinegar preserves it. Lovely at room temperature with toast or on a spoon.

Saturday 25 June 2011

Things that Delight Me - Part 1

Part 1 because there is so much more. But I don't know when part 2 will arrive...
• Wrapping myself in a soft fluffy bathsheet after a warm bath or shower
• Tracing lines with my fingers across a beautiful back in bed
• The smell, and taste, of freshly brewed coffee and freshly baked bread
• Frangipani blossoms
• The wonderful feeling when you wake up and know that the day is yours to do with as you wish
• The feel, taste, sensation, aroma of dark dark chocolate dissolving on my tongue
• The excitement of arriving in and discovering a new place
• Amazing and outlandish architecture
• Just about any sentence ever written by Alain de Botton (I can't claim to have read them all ... but those I have read, I love)
• The wonderful feeling of knowing that you have one whole white truffle that you can use however you like – and you don't have to share
• Reading about my friends’ lives on Facebook – and finding out how amazing they are
• The excitement of thinking about making massive changes in one’s life
• Truffled honey
• Smelly, strong cheeses
• A perfectly poached egg smothered with buttery, lemony hollandaise sauce
• Meeting up with friends just for the hell of it ...

Friday 17 June 2011

"Raw"

On Saturday I went to a cooking class. Nothing surprising there for those of you who know me. You know I love my ‘food porn’ – whether it’s magazines, TV shows, movies or live sessions. I saw the class at vegetarian fine dining restaurant Magnolia advertised on the web and decided straight away to sign up. After this class there was only one more before the restaurant closed for a couple of months. I emailed chef Gabriele Kurz, and got an email in response confirming my place.

At the appointed time I walked through the heat and arrived at Magnolia. I was greeted with some herb water, one of the restaurant’s specialities, and a moist cloth to wipe away the stains of Dubai’s heat. Chef Gaby came across to greet me, and dropped the biggest surprise of the day on me. I had thought we were going to be cooking. “Well, not so much cooking’ she said. “Today’s food is raw.”

Raw. As in uncooked. As in raw vegetarian. As in salad ... and fanatics. I know people who eat ‘raw’ food. They are seriously obsessed by what they eat.
So I looked at the menu list:
• Avocado Basil Emulsion (difficult to ruin those flavours)
• Iced almond milk (can’t comment on this one)
• Watermelon tomato salad (another one it would be tough to ruin)
• Raw Vegetable Lasagne (hmm. How is it a lasagne without pasta and cheese? Not sure about this)
• Herb Water (tasted these before and they’re great)

So there was nothing that sounded too bad and a few things that sounded very good indeed.

First up Chef Gaby prepared the tomatoes for tomato puree and tomato water. The tomato water would be used to flavour the avocado emulsion (this was sounding better and better) and the puree would be formed into a quenelle and place on the emulsion to serve. The interesting point was pureeing the tomatoes so finely to make the tomato water (I’d only ever chopped them roughly before) and adding some white balsamic vinegar for flavour. The tomato puree can be frozen and added to tomato water for a refreshing drink. Could be interesting to add a touch of vodka for a pale bloody mary.

Next up were ‘pralines’ – home made marzipan which was used to stuff dates and dried apricots. Then decorated with coconut and pistachios. The marzipan was sweetened with agave syrup and flavoured with ginger and lemon. I personally would omit the ginger in future, but that’s a personal taste. The ‘pralines’ were delicious. A bit fiddley but they looked impressive. Great for a dinner party finale.

The tomato and watermelon salad opened my eyes, taste buds and other senses to some new ideas. It hadn’t ever occurred to me before to chop up snow peas into tiny pieces. The joy of this approach was that my brain didn’t know what it was getting spoonfuls of before it tasted the food. There’s something interesting in mixed mouthfuls of tomatoes and watermelon.

When it came to the ‘lasagne’ it looked lovely, the tapenade that joined the layers was delicious but, for me, in the end it was a plate of raw vegetables sliced up thinly and layered. Sorry. I need the cheese, and the pasta. But if you’re being exceptionally healthy, want to add a variety of veggies to your diet, and have loads of time, this is a lovely main course.

This was my first consciously completely ‘raw’ meal and I did enjoy it. Do I want to eat ‘raw’ all the time? No. But a ‘raw’ day each week is a great idea, especially if you are wanting to raise the amount and variety of vegetables that you eat. It wasn’t quite the cooking class I expected, but it challenged me in ways that other classes have not.

Friday 8 April 2011

Dubai - A theme park masquerading as a city?

Dubai – it boomed, then busted – and now there is, it seems, an upsurge of activity spurred on by people avoiding regional countries which are experiencing unrest. Fourteen years I've lived here and I've seen a lot of changes. But what is it about Dubai that attracts people? What do they see? And is this the real Dubai – what it is really like?

Recently I ventured out to explore part of Dubai as a tourist, to view the city anew and to try and see what it is about this place that attracts the tourists - apart from the sun that is.

Downtown Dubai centres on perhaps this century's most iconic building, Burj Khalifa, the world's tallest building, which is located next to one of the world's largest shopping malls, which houses not just a myriad of stores and restaurants, but a massive aquarium and an Olympic size ice rink.

From most points close by it's impossible to see the top without getting a sore neck. It's a graceful spire, gradually decreasing in diameter until you get to what is probably the world's smallest and most inaccessible rooms at the top. Unfortunately I don't know what's up there, but I’m sure the rooms right at the top are not much use to anyone. That said, the building does house the Armani Hotel, apartments, offices and At The Top - the Burj Khalifa viewing platform.

At the foot of the tower is a small lake which lies dormant during the day, but at night blasts into action with fountains, music and lights that wouldn't look out of place in Las Vegas. And this part of Dubai now rivals the Creek and Burj Al Arab as a setting for fireworks. When I think about it, much of this area of Dubai wouldn't look out of place in the Nevada desert.


Around the lake there are apartment buildings and hotels, and another, though much smaller, shopping centre, Souk Al Bahar. Not in any sense of the word a traditional souk, but a modern reproduction, housed in buildings which strive to look traditional, but which are far too clean, in much too good condition, and which look like nothing more than an artificial precinct in an artificial city.

Am I judging it too harshly? It does make for nice photos, and as I sit outside sipping an espresso, I watch busloads of tourist stream past, cameras to their eyes. What drives people to experience their holidays through camera viewfinders?

As you walk through Souk Al Bahar, you can peer into shops packed with photos and paintings of the stock images of the region: rulers' portraits, camels, horses, dhows, buildings with wind towers - in fact just about everything that most tourists won't actually see on their quick bus tours; things that most people don't see in this modern city where it is too hot for most of the year to spend time outside. These purveyors of the fake traditional are supplemented by international restaurants and cafes, the ubiquitous Starbucks, Dean and Deluca, Rivington Grill, Bice Mare. In fact, except that it is all so clean and new, it could be just about any city in the world. Then there are the tourist shops selling south Asian and Middle Eastern souvenirs - Kashmiri handcrafts, kaftans from India, painted plates from Jordan, carpets from just about everywhere you could imagine – except, of course, here.

I wander down through an area of apartments (or residences as they are called). Carefully manicured gardens, clean paths, beautiful clean facades. But where is the life, where are the people? Again it all looks too clean, too new.

What's lacking, just about everywhere I go, is anything Emirati. I find it hard to find anything to buy other than photos and postcards that says "United Arab Emirates" to me. The popular local icon, the camel, has been hijacked, westernised, made cute until it bears no resemblance to the magnificent creatures one can see out in the desert or at the camel races. The national bird, the falcon, is depicted in metal, crystal, and who knows what - in the process losing the majesty and grandeur of the supreme hunting machine which flies freely in the hot Emirate skies.






An evening out highlights the multicultural nature of this city – and the lack of anything local. I start at a restaurant and bar complex called Pyramids. Unsurprisingly, this is Egyptian themed.


Next it’s an Indian dance bar (found myself at this one in error). Young men sit drinking, watching bored women in tight clothes dance on a stage. The men buy cards, each of which is worth a small sum of money, and throw these onto the stage, where two young men rush around sweeping them up and adding a touch of the absurd to the whole scene. We finished the night at a hotel which has a display of the “World’s Longest Chopsticks” outside its doors. Inside the clientele is mixed but I am told that many Sri Lankans like to go to this particular bar. To prove the point, as it was just before the World Cup Cricket final, the band played a popular Sri Lankan song and the crowd loved it.

I tried to see Dubai in the eyes of a tourist - and found that fourteen years of familiarity with a culture which thrives on newest, biggest, best, has left me rather jaundiced. I can admire the ingenuity that has created the place - but feel saddened that for all the money that's been invested, for all the human creativity that has been channelled into this city, it remains an island of artificiality - a place where tourists can come to 'experience' Arab culture without stepping out of their international bubble, the ideal city for the tourist who wants to see the 'exotic' but who doesn't want to step outside their comfort zone.

And as a city to live in - well, it's a convenient “jumping off” point for this Antipodean to visit Europe and to experience culture and heritage that feels genuine, rather than like an "Arab city theme park".

Tuesday 22 February 2011

The paperclip creativity exercise - part two

This is where this exercise gets really exciting.

You probably have quite a short list. There really aren't that many uses for paperclip, are there? Unless you are one of nature's genuine creative types, you may have thought up ten or so ideas, and you're probably wondering what on earth I am on about ...

Step two:

Make another list. This time, list everything that you cannot use a paperclip for.

Go for it. You may need to set a time limit for this part of the exercise. Maybe 10 minutes.

Is this list longer than the one you made yesterday? I bet it is.

Now the power step - Step three:

Look carefully at everything on your new list and ask the question, "If I really wanted to, could I use a paperclip for that?" Turn the answers in your list around and discover the possibilities.

You now have a list of amazing, creative uses for paperclips that you probably never dreamed of. Okay, so some may be impractical, some might involve giant paperclips that haven't been invented yet, some might just be completely bizarre.

That said, your mind's creativity has been unlocked.

Next time you are faced with a "how can I do something" problem, try the "list all the ways I can't do it" and turn them around ...

And remember the only limits to the paperclip are the one's your mind imposed :)

Sunday 20 February 2011

The paperclip creativity exercise - part one

Have you ever needed to think up creative ideas and been stuck? Maybe you are looking for topics for a blog, or just need to come up with some new ideas to solve a problem at work? Maybe you're a writer and you face that "I have a beautiful blank sheet of paper with so much potential, yet I have nothing to say" moment?

I want to share a simple exercise I learnt many years ago which I guarantee will create some ideas for you.

It involves the simple paperclip.

Step one:

Write down everything you can think of that you can use a paperclip for

Simple, isn't it?

Please don't be disillusioned if you only end up with a short list. In part two you will unleash the true potential of this exercise.

Come back tomorrow ...

Wednesday 16 February 2011

Stepping out ...

I'm not good at making choices. Sometimes in my life there has only been one thing on a menu, only one suitable place, only one unmissable movie. Now as I work through my year of living differently, I find choices abound - and it can be tough to make a decision.

Take tonight for instance. It's a long weekend. No work tomorrow. And I've decided to meet up with a friend and go out. But where should we go? Do we want to go to Neos on the sixty somethingth floor, of perhaps something a bit closer to the ground, should we go somewhere by the beach, or somewhere that has dancing ...?

Too many choices. Stepping out is hard. But I'm going. We've got as far as arranging where to meet and at what time. The adventure begins. Where to next ... I'll keep you posted. Maybe ;)

Predictive Text Analysis - WTF?

It's all about prediction, but this post isn't about horoscopes. I want to rant a little about an analytical technique used by organisations - predictive text analysis. An odd subject you might think. But I'm fired up to write about it because I've just seen it used so, so badly, by the bank I use - Mashreq.

Mashreq recently 'enhanced' their online banking system - and it was, of course, all for the customers. Or so they say ...

So I visited the new portal and found that if I wanted to pay a bill or transfer money to anyone in my existing beneficiary list I had to reactivate the beneficiary. Problem is, I have to do this one by one and each involves at least four steps involving security questions, mobile phones and codes.

I sent them an email suggesting that this was not ideal and this is where things became very strange. The response I received from them:

Mashreq`s response to your Feedback REF-xxxxxx is as follows:
We sincerely thank you for taking out time and writing to us. You are one of our esteemed customers and it is a privilege to be of service to you. We would like to take this opportunity to assure you that your feedback is of prime importance to us as it provides us with an opportunity to not only assess, but to also improve our service standards. We value your relationship with the bank immensely and assure you that we will make every effort to give you the best banking experience. Please to advise you that for the security of the customer accounts and credit cards the feature for adding the beneficiary on Mashreq online has been introduced. For any further assistance, please feel free to email us or contact our 24 hrs. Direct Banking Centre on 04-4244444 to speak to a Personal Banking Advisor.
If you require any further assistance, please do not hesitate to write back.
Thank you for banking with Mashreq.
Regards,
Mashreq
http://www.mashreqbank.com/
Please note this is a system generated email do not reply to this message.


(The emphasis is mine.)

The beneficiary process has been there for years - I've been using it for years. And I appreciate it. What I don't appreciate is Mashreq not addressing my issue - which is that the process to reactivate them is cumbersome and that it has to be done one at a time.

And what I really don't appreciate is being reassured about my value as a customer when they can't even be bothered to read complaint emails and rely on inadequate implementation of predictive text analysis, and then tell me it's a system generated email and not to respond.

Way to go Mashreq ... I took time out to write. If you're not going to take time out to read at least make sure you predictive text analysis system is good enough!

Tuesday 15 February 2011

My year of living differently - progress report

This year I decided I would live differently.

Many people seem to engage with their lives. But there are those amongst us who don't know how to do that, who have found it an ongoing struggle to face our fears.

Now I want to surprise myself. Often. I want to embrace courage, and much else besides. In recent months I have thought about the things I've never done and the things that I had stopped doing and wanted to do again, and the things that had never even crossed my mind. Even small steps are incredibly liberating. Savour the moment when you say to yourself, "I was amazing. Can you believe I did that?"

I decided to live and to live the Nike slogan - Just do it.

If you're facing fears and wondering if you can change, give it a go. Turn away from the idea that people are judging you. It could be that they are, but do they matter? Does their opinion matter enough to stop you from stepping up to life?

A friend recently told me that age 46 is when things turn around - the point when we make the shift from trying to please too many to a point where we realise that we are strong, beautiful people no matter what others think. It's the time when we are free of trying to impress others and just want to make sure that we wring each valuable molecule of living from the sponges around us.

Just do it.

Let me know how it goes ...

Monday 14 February 2011

Just listen ...

This morning I was watching a webcast about selling stuff on the internet (stuff being the technical term for anything that people want to sell, from content to services to tangible processes). One sentence resonated, staying with me throughout the day.

"When was the last time you spoke to a customer without trying to sell them something?"

Every week I receive one or two sales calls - in Dubai these are usually from banks or financial advisers. More often than not they launch into a prepared script about their product. They haven't asked me what I need, let alone taken the time to establish that I need anything at all. They pitch their product or service as though whatever they are offering is something everyone will want, regardless of their individual differences. My credit card requirements as a single woman of a certain age will be the same as those of a 20-seomthing who's just left home. Or so they seem to think.

They deliver their pitch in such a way that you know the clock is ticking. You can almost hear the voices in their heads:
- Should I give up now?
- Was that a flicker of interest?
- Maybe she's worth another 30 seconds before I decide to hang up and try the next call.

Yet, when someone does stop and listen to us, when someone asks what we want or need and then waits for the answer, and listens to it, most of us feel far happier about spending the time talking to them, and are probably more open to buying whatever they have to sell.

If you're in sales, give it a try. Ask one good question (a nice open ended question designed to give them scope to talk) and then listen. If you must make a noise, make sure you're encouraging them to keep speaking. About what they want, about what they need.

Give it a go. I'm sure you'll discover that you understand their needs more deeply - and when that happens, then you can think about maybe selling. Get used to this process, use it a few times, build up a relationship with your prospect. When you make the investment you will reap the financial rewards.

Saturday 8 January 2011

Messing about - Borlotti beans

Saute and soften 1/2 finely chopped onion in oil, then add 1 finely chopped clove of garlic. Add 1 tin tomatoes (squashed up) and 1/2 cup red wine. Also paprika, salt, ground cumin and ground coriander to taste (not too much of the last two). Simmer until reduced (maybe 30 - 40 minutes). Add one tin drained, rinsed borlotti beans. Stir through and keep on heat for a couple of minutes.

Enjoy!
Note: If you like, you can pile this on toasted Italian bread brushed with some EVOO and rubbed with a clove of garlic.